The title of my blog is derived from exactly what I feel like I am doing. I run on very little sleep and energy throughout the day and still need to parent and work and meet my basic needs. I struggle with this on a daily basis because I don’t think I will ever catch up.

Both of my kids technically slept through the night at 6 months old. But then there are growth spurts, teething and sleep regressions (I had NO idea how many there were!) Then close to 9 months old my son began to have night terrors. He had them until the morning my daughter was born. And like magic-they stopped. My 3.5 year old daughter still won’t sleep consistently through the night. She just wakes up some time between 3 and 4 a.m. wanting more songs or water or wanting to sleep with us. I haven’t slept in 7 years so yeah, I’m crabby sometimes!

My tiny first baby at 3 weeks old, neither of us slept this night.

I had pretty severe post-partum depression after the birth of my son but I didn’t recognize it or seek treatment for it. I worked on my mood but it took well over a year for it to clear, and I would heavily advise anyone experiencing this to seek medical treatment as soon as possible. The first time I addressed any of my mental health issues was this past fall. And it was the best thing I could have done for myself. I have suffered from anxiety and depression since I was a teen and to finally have it acknowledge was a release in itself.

So how do I relieve stress? Well, it’s not always easy, especially when there are very few hours to myself in a day.

  • Hobbies-okay hear me out, I used to roll my eyes whenever someone told me to take up a hobby. Hello?! When do you think I have time?? But then I realized I could make time if it was really what I wanted to do. I realized decreasing my stress levels needed to take priority. I love to write and journal so I began diaryofathirdlifecrisis.wordpress.com in February of 2019. Shortly after I realized cooking and baking were also stress relieving and so I started chandiscookingcorner.wordpress.com shortly after that, and then this year I found myself here!
  • So, because my eyes would pop open at 430 am every day, I decided to workout early! Please trust me when I say I am NOT a morning person but I have found this to be much easier than trying to work out while exhausted after work. Breaking a sweat and releasing those endorphins helps physically workout the stress I’ve been carried
My happy place in the evenings, warm light, writing tools, and a mug of hot tea
  • Finding shortcuts-I find that time management and efficiency with certain activities really reduce my daily stress. Meal planning is a huge one, because I stress about eating healthy and also getting my kids fed before WW3 breaks out over hangry-ness. I will go into detail about my meal planning and prep process next time because I find it to be a big relief to come home from a long work day and not have to think or work that hard at providing dinner.
Pretending not to be crabby with bags under my eyes
  • Self Mantras-So during my counseling sessions I found myself repeating some of the things I learned to myself over and over. Because they are true, and they put things into perspective. The biggest one related to my stress is “what is the worst thing that is going to happen?” If we are late to karate, if my 3 year old doesn’t eat her dinner right away, if the house doesn’t get cleaned right away…what’s the worst thing that will come of it? Usually the answer is not disaster, so then I take a deep breath and let the situation unfold as is.

I hope that these tips will help. I’m always a work in progress and sometimes my stress does get the best of me, but I figure trying to be better is the best thing I can do!