Isn’t that a question we women struggle with most of our lives? Well maybe there are people out there who are solid in their foundation, purpose, and goals in life but I am far from being that person. I do know that the answer is ever-evolving, but learning that has been quite the process.
I am a woman who has grown from an angsty teenager and young woman. I am a daughter and a sister, and in both of those roles I feel like I struggled early in life. My parents set high expectations for me and I found them difficult to achieve and maintain. My sister and I never got along until I moved out of the house at 18. I have come to realize my parents just wanted the best for me, and that siblings will always fight, as I watch my two currently arguing over the same LEGO set (why not play with literally any other of the thousands of toys in this house?!)
I am also a wife. I met my husband when I was close to giving up in the love department. We met on eHarmony.com, and I always joke what a waste the membership was because he was the first and only person I met on that site, the rest was history! Marriage isn’t perfect and I am far from a perfect wife. But ours is an equal partnership, and at the end of the day we are by each others side, and very exhausted.
I am a mother to two amazing little kids. James is almost 7, and he is the most curious, intelligent and hilarious child I have encountered (and of course the most beautiful boy because I am his mother and of course he is!). Amaya is the definition of a “three-nager’ and she is a little spit-fire. She is bubbly, loving, also hilarious and a free spirit. Parenting is a journey that no book can prepare you for. The ups, the downs, the stress, the sleeplessness. But also the love and joy. Its a mixed bag if anything at this stage!
I am a Physical Therapist with a part time position in home health care. I really love what I do and the satisfaction of helping people get back on their feet in their own homes. I admire parents who stay at home to raise their kids. I am home one day a week with my daughter and by the next day I am happy to be at work again. Not that I don’t love being with them, but I feel working is easier and second-nature to me, where as parenting takes way more effort and brain power!!
I don’t know how my roles will change in the future, I do know that I will constantly have to adjust in this life. I have come to drop my expectations of what life should look like, because I’ve learned the hard way it does not always work out the way I picture it! That doesn’t mean it has to be bad- far from it in fact. Especially if there is coffee involved!
